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Definitely Not The Proper Thing To Do! 114 36.77%
No Harm, Just Don't Cross The "Friends" Line. 147 47.42%
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I have done it twice, and I have been divorced twice. Hummmmm I wonder if there is a connection there.
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I think it is perfectly OK to ride with friends of the opposite sex, as long as your signifitcate other don't mind.
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anytime a man and a woman spend time together there is the possibility that they may end up doing something wrong....

If you don't trust yourself, then don't go into the henhouse. For me, I can ride with or have a female ride on my bike without problems. I know where I lay my head at night.
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If there is truly nothing going on then just tell her - I think the fact that you are asking us, instead of your wife, suggests some guilty feelings or perhaps other feelings that may even be subconscious...

Talk to your spouse and ask how she feels about it - I would have no problem with my husband going once or twice if I knew about it - it also depends on how well I know his friend - there's a few he could go with a lot and others - no way. But if I found out he was riding with her without my knowledge then watch out - because the act of NOT telling me tells me ALOT...
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I usually ride with the guys. BF is married, but estranged from his wife. Just waiting on the legal formalities. Most of my riding buddies are male. Know their wives or girlfriends. There are no problems.
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If there is truly nothing going on then just tell her - I think the fact that you are asking us, instead of your wife, suggests some guilty feelings or perhaps other feelings that may even be subconscious...

Talk to your spouse and ask how she feels about it - I would have no problem with my husband going once or twice if I knew about it - it also depends on how well I know his friend - there's a few he could go with a lot and others - no way. But if I found out he was riding with her without my knowledge then watch out - because the act of NOT telling me tells me ALOT...
Re-Read the first 5 words of my sentence of the post please:
Not necessarily talking about myself, but do you think it's ok or is it totally wrong for a married person and a friend of the opposite sex to ride their cycles together without their spouse having any knowledge of it?
As far as myself, I ride alone most of the time, have went on one ride the local Harley shop sponspored, and ride with a few male buddies sometimes. I know some that do it and it's never been a problem, also know some that has caused major problems.
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without their spouse having any knowledge of it? .
In my book that is just as bad as sleeping around I guess it is the sneaking around behind someone's back that ticks me off.
I have watched my friend put some skank on the back of his bike without his wife knowing.

sorry this is a touchy subject with me
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I just wanna chime in. I voted that it would lead to something youd regret....

BUT the only thing I think is wrong with it is that you said IF YOUR WIFE DOESNT KNOW.

If I had an honest reason to want to ride with a lady... like she was cool as hell or had a good ride planned. OR if a lady just turned out to be my main riding partner... I'd just tell my damn wife.

Hell, after that your wife would kinda dictate weather it was OK or not... and for the most part, thats how it should be...

If it bothered her too much I wouldn't do it. I'd tell her WHY I wanted to ... and that ya know, its all innocent... but she'd have the final say.
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