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Definitely Not The Proper Thing To Do! 114 36.77%
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in a group fine. just me and one other chick. damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn hard to excplain.
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I voted not going to fly. Reason: His/Her spouses do not know that they are riding together. Failure to disclose is the part I have the problem with in this situation. Lack of honesty and openness cause concern that the intentions are NOT truly on the up and up.

If my spouse/bf talked to me about it first then it would not be an issue. I can trust honesty any day, but not sneaking around.

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IMO, its all about the people involved. If they are "willing" to cheat, then they are going to cheat. If not, then it doesn't matter.

What DOES stick out in your statement, is that the wife doesn't know. Silly secrets like that seem to be an indicator of something "different" in the relationship.
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It's all about "empowering" your wife. In other words, I'm in favor of it as long as she approves. You have to phrase it like she is in charge. For example, "hey, so and so was asking for a ride on the bike, but I told her it would have to wait until I cleared it with you. The back seat is yours, so she would need your permission to use it. So all you have to do, honey, is say the word and I will tell her no."
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Everyone on their own bike? No problem. Her on the back of MY bike? It better be someone that my woman knows AND trusts, which, with women, is RARELY the same thing. LOL. The only part that might cause friction is the "without her knowledge" thing. It's one thing if I go out riding and hook up with some other friend who's out riding. It's another if I PLAN to go riding with a member of the opposite body parts and don't tell her...
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If you do not mind your wife spending time with another man and she knows about her and does not mind then I would say it would be OK. But why? It seems to me like running across the freeway naked and trying not to get hit.
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Another reason to avoid marriage...............................
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If I tried to do anything hoping that my wife won't find out.... its cheating. This may be over-simplifying things, but it keeps me happily married (pardon the oxymoron.)

And I don't view cheating as "cheating on my wife." I view cheating as "cheating on my family." 'Cause if I ever got caught, it would break up the family, not just the marriage.

Not to highjack this thread, but how many of you would be okay finding out that your wife was riding with another guy and didn't want you to know?

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knowledge is power.. If she knows, then all is good, If she doesn't know, then all isn't good..

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Not to highjack this thread, but how many of you would be okay finding out that your wife was riding with another guy and didn't want you to know?
VERY GLAD my wife doesn't ride.


And just to clarify again.... Rascal was talking about two people riding TWO bikes, Not having someone ride on the back of their bike. WHICH lends itself to a totally different set of worries.
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Rascal,

man you like treading on thin ice don't ya...
whoooo hoooo hiding stuff from so....not a good idea...
especially if she has any vested say so over the bike in question...
I have taken my wifes best friend for a ride..wife knew up front..
wasn't gone long enough to get into trouble....didnt cross any lines...
her hubby snapped a pic...got a little static from the wife for the pic...
was not my idea...it was different, and interesting
...cant say much more due to language constraints....

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